Let Me Dance On The Table (And Other Things You’ll Never Hear Me Say)

Woman DancingMy mother is a table dancer.

Well, sort of.

But only when there’s a mouse in the house.

She can move with lightning speed and precision at the twitching of a whisker. Up on the table she goes where she waits for someone – anyone – to rescue her.

How well I remember waking up to her screaming when I was five years old. You would have thought someone was stabbing her to death, but no. She only wanted me to get out of bed and go outside to get one of the guys working on our house to come inside and kill the mouse -me, the five year old, while she, the adult, danced on the table.

Where am I going with this?

Well, there are three different kinds of women:

1. Those who climb the table and wait for help

2. Those who calmly tell the guy of the house to remove the icky little rodent

3. Those who kill the the rascal themselves and throw him out the back door

So which one are you, girls?

You can get a lot of insight about yourself just from how you handle the appearance of a tiny mouse. It speaks loads about your level of independence, don’t you think?

I’m a middle of the road kind of girl myself. I know I could kill it if I wanted to, but I choose not to. I like to make use of that man I have around the house. And, thankfully, he likes to be used (mostly in good ways).

I don’t need a man to take care of me, but I want one to. Big difference.

You will also never hear me say, “Will you pump my gas?” or “Can you change this light bulb?”

Why?

Because my husband already does all those things, plus much more.

Somewhere he got the crazy idea that I am not capable of chopping a vegetable or removing hot items from the oven. (Even though I manage to somehow do these things when he’s not here.)

I am also not allowed to cut the grass when he’s not home, use most power tools or any saws (even when he is at home), or do anything he views as unsafe without him.

Being the middle of the road girl that I am, how do you think that makes me feel?

Fantastic!

Someone cares enough to devote their life to protecting me. Without getting all “Freud” about it, let me just say that I actually found a man who treats me as well as my father – something that’s hard to do.

By the way, every time my mother was dancing on the table my father came running to kill the mouse. He knew it wasn’t going to kill and eat her, of course. But that wasn’t the point.

It still isn’t.

My wonderful husband comes running too, even though I don’t stand on the table to get that response.

So husbands, if your wife (or girlfriend) is a table dancer, please do the gentlemanly thing and come running to rescue her. After all, she only needs a little attention and reassurance.

That’s what we all need in life.

Another thing you will never hear me say: It’s too much love or attention.

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300 Creative Dates: Make Dating Fun For The Next 50 Years

300 Creative DatesWhat Is 300 Creative Dates?

300 Creative Dates is a book that will make your relationship happier and more fulfilling, thereby making your whole life better.

How can one little book do that? Well, for starters, most people think nothing of using a manual for most anything in their lives……except for one area…..relationships.

Think about it – It’s common for people to have a manual to help:

  • fix a car
  • build a deck
  • build a website
  • hundreds more things

300 Creative Dates Teaches You The Art Of Dating

I am a firm believer that ALL COUPLES should have a shelf in their homes that contains a few basic books to guide them down the road of love and commitment. It only makes sense when you think about it, because your relationship with your partner should be the most important thing in your life (besides your religious inclination). And if it isn’t the most important thing, well, it should be.300 Creative Dates

With that in mind, you should think about the time you spend with your partner. Make it quality time that really means something to both of you intimately. The art of dating has been lost in this hectic modern world, but you can bring it back again. 300 Creative Dates will get our creative juices going, but it will also be there for you to refer to any time you need a new idea.

When things are right with your live life, then everything else seems to fall into line, right? That’s because so many things in your life are directly related to your relationship with your significant other. In fact, even the level of overall positivity your have in your life is linked to it.

It’s unavoidable. Your love life is the basic building block that everything else in your life is built on.

What does that have to do with 300 Creative Dates?

The closer you are to your partner, the better your relationship will be. And how do you get closer to your mate?

I’m happy you asked…..

300 Creative Dates is the definitive guide for creative ideas. If you want to get truly close your partner, the best way to do it is by spending time together. But not just any time…quality time.

Do you see where I’m going with this?

The more shared experiences you have together, the more you will be bonded to each other. Period.

The closer you will feel. Period.

Here’s More About 300 Creative Dates…..

Most of the dates in the book are easy on the budget–date ideas for less than $20. Of course, be mindful that not all of these ideas will work for you. We are all unique in our own special way.

Find the ones that will work and adapt them to your particular style and situation and let this book inspire you to create your own exciting dates!

Here’s Just a Taste of The Ideas You’ll Get Inside This Valuable Resource…

You’ll discover…

300 Creative Dates – Dozens of dates that are perfect for long-distance relationships. There are dates specifically for celebrating the season, birthdays, anniversaries, vacation dates and other special occasions.You will find super inventive picnic date ideas and tips on making dinner dates the most creative and romantic imaginable without spending a lot of money or time in preparation.
8 Creative Ways To Ask Someone Out – Why just ask someone out the normal way when you can make it a memorable experience?
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Clingy Signs (How To NOT Suck the Life Out Of Your Partner)

Clingy Signs

Clingy Signs 101

The words “clingy signs” should be written on the forehead of a friend of mine who is getting a divorce. This guy has been the epitome of a good, loving spouse. He took the good with the bad. No amount of bad behavior on the part of his wife made him want a divorce.

There was literally NOTHING she could do to make my friend walk away (and trust me, it got bad). In other words, he was being a doormat. A clingy, needy, doormat. Finally, she left and ended my friend’s misery.

But that wasn’t quite the end.

She came crawling back, and unsurprisingly, he took her back.

After she learned that she could push him to that point and get away with it….Well, let’s just say a pattern started. Now she comes and goes as she pleases with the full knowledge that he will ALWAYS take her back.

You see, she has learned that he has no boundaries in place, no self respect, or self esteem. And she is taking full advantage of his weaknesses. Therefore, he clings to her for dear life. And in return, she treats him like he is nothing.

The more he needs her, the more she abuses him.

Clingy Signs Are Like NOT Like a Box Of Chocolates

Why? Because you DO always know what you are gonna get. Trouble.

Clingy signs are quite clear to a person on the outside looking in on a relationship, but it’s sometimes more difficult when you are one of the two people participating in it. So when does needing support from your partner cross the line and become just plain annoying?

First, let’s back up for a minute.

So why is it so bad to be clingy and needy in the first place? I can sum it up in one word:

UNEQUAL.

That’s right. When one person is clingy, then they are automatically taking more from the relationship than they are giving. Period.

It doesn’t matter how much you love them if you are smothering them because they will be unhappy anyway. And I am speaking from experience here. A significant other from my past used to get mad if I ate breakfast without him and usually not speak to me for three days. (Even though he wouldn’t get up for breakfast when everyone else did.)

Yeah….it was that bad. And that’s just one example of many…but I digress.

This made me feel like I was carrying a heavy weight because I felt responsible for my happiness AND HIS! I could only hold us both up for so long. After awhile it just wasn’t worth the effort anymore. I believe that’s what happens to lots of potentially great relationships.

Here’s the reasons why:

1. Clingy People Are Usually Selfish (Although Not All of Them Mean To Be)

If you are a clingy person and I just hurt your feelings, I am sorry. But you need to hear the truth and take a good look at yourself. (Your future happiness depends on it.) Clingy people are insecure people. They need constant verification that they are loved, appreciated, etc. Because of that need, they are always thinking about themselves and how their partner is relating to them.

Now, when you are constantly thinking about yourself you can’t possibly be thinking about your partner and their needs, can you?

YOU are responsible for YOU and it’s NOT your partner’s job to make you happy. Clingy people wait for other people to make them happy when, in truth, happiness never comes from external sources. It ALWAYS comes from within.

So if this sounds like you, then go out right now and take up a new hobby that you have always wanted to try. Set a goal and accomplish it. Read some happy, upbeat self improvement books. Make some new friends. Do anything that will make you feel more accomplished, well-rounded, confident, and basically good about yourself.

(Then you won’t need other people to make you feel good because you will have the power to make yourself feel better.) By the way, all those traits just named will also make you more attractive to your mate.)

2. People Want To Feel Like They Are In a Relationship With an Equal

An equal is someone on the same wavelength with you mentally, emotionally, and physically. They “get” you like no one else does. And they give as much to the relationship as they take. Relationships are like banks. You make deposits, then you draw out things when you need them. However, it will bankrupt your relationship if one person is always making withdrawals without putting anything in.

Basically, the healthiest relationships are those involving two happy, independent people who don’t actually “need” each other in the most basic sense, but who choose to be together and love each other because it makes them happy.

3. Each Partner Needs Support

One of the main points in life is to find a person to share your highs and lows with. They celebrate with you when things are great, and they help hold you up when things are bad. However, if you are a clingy person, then how can you be a rock for your partner when they need you? (See Number 1 above.)

Remember, you are responsible for your 50% of this relationship. Don’t shrink away from your duties. Your partner needs support no matter how strong they are. They need to feel like you always have their back, same as they do for you.

4. Relationships Require Work

All You Need Is Love is a great song, but it’s simply not true. (Now I will have that song in my head all day.) Relationships take work, but if your partner is your top priority it doesn’t really feel like work. Instead of spending your day worrying about where your partner is and what they are doing, take that time to plan something nice for them to show your love. And give them some space so they can breathe. It will be good for both of you.

Can’t decide if you are clingy or if your partner is clingy? Here are some signs:

* Must know where the other person is every minute of every day.

* Don’t like for your partner to spend time with their friends without you (or at all).

* Want your partner to give up hobbies/interests that don’t include you.

* Hold your partner back from their potential because you are afraid of being “left behind”.

* Don’t have a life and plan of your own. (That’s why you are riding their coattails.)

But please don’t confuse any of this as meaning you should always do things without your mate, or vice versa. There’s a healthy balance when it comes to allotting your time with your partner and other people in your life. There is no magic number or percentage. It’s different with each couple. If you talk openly about it, then you can figure out what works for both of you.

(By the way, good communication also cuts down on clinginess in relationships because you are closer, and therefore, more secure.)

A good resource to help you get closer to your partner is called 1000 Questions For Couples by renowned relationship author Michael Webb (as seen on the Oprah Winfrey Show and many other media outlets).

Clingy SignsBy the way, if you are completely wound up in each other absolutely LOVE clinging to each other, that’s not necessarily a bad thing (as long as both of you genuinely enjoy it). But one word of caution: It is still more healthy for you as a couple, and as individuals, to have some independent time away from each other. Everyone needs some time alone with their friends and individual interests. Give yourselves a chance to miss each other a little bit.

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If you are a clingy person, I didn’t mean to beat up on you. Being clingy is usually a learned behavior and you may have been taught that by your parents. But the time has come to break out of that mold and become your own person.

A strong partner with their own life and interests makes for a great mate.

If you want to have a healthy, BALANCED relationship, then you must be a happy, well-adjusted individual. Now, I know we all have our little issues in life, but I mean generally speaking you should have your act together. Go out and get some new friends and hobbies. Start thinking and acting positively all the time.

Start loving life and everyone around you. All those clingy signs will automatically disappear when you do these simple things because you will be happier, more confident, and more independent. If you need more help getting it together, then go see a counselor. Many churches and workplaces will supply you with counseling services for free.

Here are some books from Amazon that you might find helpful:


For more information read How To Stop Being Clingy.

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The Worst Thing a Guy Can Do

The worst thing a guy can do is………can you fill in the blank, guys?
It has occurred to me that most guys do not realize when they are committing the worst cardinal sin of relationships. It is something so bad that some women rate it right up there with cheating. Yes, there is something that is AS bad. Some women can even forgive you for cheating easier than for this.
So what is this awful cardinal sin?

NOT LISTENING!!!

The worst thing a guy can do is not listen to his wife/girlfriend………period.

Nothing makes a female angrier than being ignored. We don’t like it when you don’t understand us, but when you just plain don’t listen….well, that means you are not even ATTEMPTING to understand us.

We understand that things in your brains do not work like things in our brains, and we are okay with that. If you were just like us, then we wouldn’t want you anyway.

However, when you do not listen to us the message you are sending to us is this: You are not important enough for me to waste my attention on. OUCH!!

Now, you probably did not consciously think that, and you didn’t mean to send that message at all. However, you need to understand that in the give and take of relationships, this is the part where you give. You give your time and attention to us because we are the most important thing in your lives. And sometimes you put yourself out and do things that inconvenience you for the people you love.

As for the guy’s side of things, I understand that some women can be overly demanding of your time and attention. Most women truly do not realize when they are doing this. If you are in one of those situations, then sit down and have an honest talk with your girl. Most women are amazingly reasonable when they have their guy’s undivided attention.

So here’s how you show her how much you really care:

Take 20 minutes out of each day and dedicate it to your girl. This can be when you first get home from work, right before bed, or any other time that’s convenient for you. But you need to make it the SAME TIME EVERY DAY. This is important because you need to make it a habit that you do everyday (like brushing your teeth). If you do not do it at the same time each day, then you will begin to skip days and the whole plan will go down the drain.

Now, what are you going to do with this 20 minutes? You are going to get something to drink and then sit down and spend quality time with your girl. Let her tell you about her day and actually LISTEN to her. Don’t think about what’s on television or what you will do when she’s finished. Then you can tell her about your day. Use this time to really connect. You will find yourself looking forward to this intimate time as much as her.

So many guys think of women as chattering on about nothing and think it’s okay just to tune them out. But think about this. She wants to tell you about her day because she wants you to be a part of her life. She shares with you because you are important to her. When she STOPS sharing with you, then you are NO LONGER important to her. THEN YOU ARE IN BIG, BIG TROUBLE!!!

When she’s not interested in sharing her ups and downs with you – buddy, she’s not interested in YOU!!!

You are also probably thinking that twenty minutes a day couldn’t possibly make that much of a difference. But take it from another girl who knows. If you sit her down and explain your plan to her, she will be ecstatic! You will get points just for wanting to do it. Then when you start using this time wisely- well, you will usually find that she saves her “chatter” for the twenty minutes that she knows she has your undivided attention. After all, her whole goal is for you to listen, so she is less likely to waste her energy until she knows you are listening.

Twenty minutes a day will make a bigger impact than you could ever imagine. Try it now and you will see what I mean. Remember, she wants to be treated like a princess. You want to be her hero. This accomplishes both things at once.

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The Magic Of Making Up: Bring Back the Love Of Your Life

The Magic of Making UpThe Magic Of Making Up

The “magic” component here is the love. You obviously still feel love for the person in questions here, so let’s see what we can do about helping you get them back.

When trying to get your ex back you might be tempted to make a few common mistakes. Humans by nature want to form attachments to others and be close to those whom we love. This is what secures the longevity of the human race and makes our world go around. However, these same innate urges can also work against us when our emotions completely take over our actions.

If you are reading this article, then you are obviously suffering from a break up with someone you love. This is the time that you need a clear head, but it is the most difficult time in your life to think straight. I understand because I have been there – we all have at one time or other.

What You Need Is An EXACT Plan To Get Your Partner Back

Why is this important? Because right now you are thinking with your heart, not your head. It is way too easy to make costly mistakes when you are thinking irrationally, and at this point you are desperate to get your ex back. You will do anything, right?

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Sounds easy, huh? That’s because it is.

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