May 2012 Newsletter – How To Keep a Relationship Alive

How To Keep a Relationship AliveHow To Keep a Relationship Alive

Some couples seem to have a secret magic trick when it comes to keeping the spark alive in their relationship.

You know those couples – the ones who snuggle up to each other constantly, even though they have been married for fifteen years.

How can they be like that after all those years? What’s their secret?

The answer is actually quite easy.

They value their relationship.

Okay, so I know that’s not really a secret, but think about it…..

We put effort into things we value, right? So where do you put most of your effort? Take a good, long look at your life and it will be obvious to you.

Find where your effort goes and you will also find where your desire goes as well. It could be work, friends, a certain hobby, etc.

Maybe you have been neglecting your relationship, but then maybe you didn’t even realize it. Most people don’t.

Today is a great day to do something about it. I am providing a checklist of a few things you can do to get started. I also suggest you immediately start 30 Days of Gratitude. It costs absolutely nothing, but the results cannot be bought with any amount of money.

So here’s the list to get you started:

1. Make an effort to use an extra nice tone of voice with your partner.

2. Use extra manners with your partner. They should be getting the best of you. Always say “please” and “thank you” to them.

3. Tell your partner you love them at least once each day. This can be a text, a note, or any other way. But be sure to say it to them out loud at least once each week.

4. Be sure to have more physical contact with your partner. Hugging, holding hands, and kissing increase our attachment to each other and release the hormones in our brains that make us feel happy and safe. (That’s good for our overall health.)

5. Schedule regular dates with your partner. Once a week is optimal, but if you have children you may need to do once a month or once every two weeks.

You may be thinking, “We go out all the time.” But my question is this: Is is REALLY a date?

You take extra time to get ready for a date. Your guy might bring you flowers. He always holds the door for you. All your time and attention is focused on your partner when you are on a date. You go somewhere romantic on a real date. See where I am going with this?

How to keep a relationship alive is not rocket science. Time and effort will get you 99.9% of the way.

Okay, so start planning yourself a hot date right now!

 

Pregnancy Miracle

Stress and Infertility


Pregnancy Miracle

Even if this does not apply to you, you probably know someone it does apply to.

Nothing can drive a wedge between two monogamous people quicker than infertility.

When intimacy turns into a chore, it’s very difficult to keep the warm, fuzzy feelings alive.

We were fortunate enough to conceive the first month with both of our children, but even my husband was feeling the pressure.

It is difficult for me to image couples who continue on that regimen for months and even years.

I know that being unable to conceive (or worse, conceiving but being unable to carry to term) can stress out anyone.

I know many couples that have faced both of those situations.

However, the best medicine for fertility seems to be relaxation.

I know at least two couples that finally conceived a child and carried it to term after they had already adopted a child and given up on having their own natural child.

With that being said, I am currently looking into a program called Pregnancy Miracle that is designed to help couples conceive a child.

Pregnancy Miracle

If you are currently encountering difficulties trying to have a child, it might be worth checking out.

How To Keep a Relationship Alive

When was the last time you did something really nice for your mate for absolutely no reason at all?

Why don’t you give your partner a back massage tonight? Or fix dinner when it’s not your turn? Or clean his/her car inside and out?

Go do that one little thing for him or her that you know they will love. You know what it is.

Maybe my husband will bring me a red velvet cupcake from my favorite bakery today. That’s my little thing.

I don’t know how many calories are in those things and I hope no one ever tells me!

Always love like there’s no tomorrow!

Until me meet again…..

1000 Questions For Couples: How Well Do You Know Your Partner?

1000 Questions For Couples

1000 Questions For Couples

How Well Do You Know Your Partner? This is an ago old question that most individuals have asked themselves at some point in their lives. No matter what we like to think, your partner has thoughts and feelings that you know nothing about.

How would you like to open up the lines of communication and share EVERYTHING?

No matter how close your relationship happens to be, there is always room for improvement.

Your mate may have hopes and dreams that are hidden deep inside that you could never imagine. Maybe your partner doesn’t feel comfortable sharing these thoughts with you. And maybe you don’t feel comfortable sharing either. This does not make you a “bad” couple. It just means you are like the average couple out there.

First, let me be clear. This IS NOT a bad reflection on you. It is what it is. You can’t dig information out of a person if they don’t want to share it with you…..or can you?

Communication In Relationships

Most couples never get to know each other on the deep, intimate level that they could. People are afraid of being vulnerable. They are afraid of rejection. That is the bottom line.

There is often a feeling of, “I won’t share if you won’t share too.” This is completely understandable. And it’s human nature.

A person must be in a situation that feels safe and secure before they are willing to open up and divulge privileged information about themselves. If you want your partner to share with you, then you MUST create an environment that promotes that.

Not so long ago society seemed to pressure individuals to air all their thoughts and feelings to any and every one (Oprah, Phil Donahue, Sally Jesse Raphael, and now Dr. Phil). However, that medium of telling the world your deepest, darkest secrets has now been largely replaced by this new thing called the reality show.

But what do we see time after time? People air their deepest thoughts and feelings on television and are later crucified for their honesty.

The these that’s passed along to other people is: Don’t share it if you don’t have to.

Your partner, and maybe even you, have the same fears.

What if I tell this person everything I have inside and then:

a. They laugh at me

b. They don’t understand me

c. They later leave or divorce me and take that information with them

The Real Truth 1000 Questions For Couples

What people fail to realize is that if they actually SHARE everything, it greatly cuts the odds that the relationship will end.

Communication problems in relationships are one of the most common causes for divorce and break ups. (In my opinion, most every other problems stems from lack of communication in relationships.)

1000 Questions For Couples (renowned author Michael Webb of Oprah Winfrey show fame) is a comprehensive tool to bullet proof your relationship or marriage by utilizing love questions that dig deep and really allow you to know the person you love. Because the communication goes both ways, your partner will become more comfortable sharing their inner most thoughts because you will feel comfortable sharing as well.

Marriages and relationships CAN last for 50 years or more. Knowing each other on a very basic, intimate level is the key. You could search the internet for weeks and never put together a collection of questions to compare to this list.

Here are the topics the 1000 questions are divided into:

Personality, Feelings & Emotions
Favorites
Pets
Attractions
Health, Food & Well Being
Vacations
Morals, Convictions and Beliefs
Religion & Spiritual Matters
Car & Driver Holidays & Celebrations
Home & Home Life
Past & Future
Hobbies & Entertainment
Love, Romance & Date Nights
Friends & Family
Communication
Career and Education
Money
Relationships – Past & Present
Children & Child Rearing
Wedding & Honeymoon
Sex

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by Angela Christian Pope @ ModernRelationship.org