Let Go of the Need To Be Perfect

I have a confession to make.

I am a perfectionist.

Let me clarify – I feel like all things around me need to be perfect all the time. Or at least I did.

As the only child of a mother who cleaned everything with a toothbrush, I learned the way to happiness is for everything to be perfect. And by perfect I mean clean, well organized, and well…..perfect.

The two of us saw eye to eye on this lifestyle choice. Floors were always clean. Drawers were organized. The frig was always wiped down, inside and out.

Then my father would come home.

He should have had a mug that read “World’s Biggest Slob”.

My dad was the king of misplaced items, disorganization, and borderline hoarding. He was also happy with his lifestyle choice.

I listened to years of arguments over cabinet doors being left open (my mom often hit her head on them) and dirty clothes being left in the floor.

So what is the point here?

Mainly this: Life CANNOT be perfect.

That’s just how it is.

The universe was not designed to be perfect. It was designed to be functional and productive and beautiful.

And so are we. Let me say that in a straightforward way. We were designed to be functional and productive and beautiful.

Not perfect.

Minimalism can bring you a little closer to perfection in life, but never quite on target. Because we were never meant to be that.

And some of us live years (or our whole lives) trying to attain perfection in our lives in all ways while thinking we will be happy when we get there.

But the fact is we will NEVER GET THERE.

I had to tell myself that, just like I am telling you right now.

So tonight when my husband helps with dinner but doesn’t clean up behind himself, and my kids unpack their backpacks on the kitchen table and leave a stray item there when it’s time to eat, and my dogs dig in the yard before pouncing across my white duvet – I will choose to appreciate that I have a husband and kids and dogs instead of sweating the small stuff.

After all, my life will never be perfect, but it will always be happy. Because I choose for it to be so. And I find perfection in that alone.