What Is Love?

What is loveWhat Is Love?

I have given a fair amount of thought to this question and I this is what I came up with:

Love is knowing someone’s faults and forgiving them for those faults.

Now, I know this sounds a little simplistic, but stick with me here.

Forgiveness is one of the hardest emotions for humans to conjure up. For some of us, it is nearly impossible.  In order to forgive someone for something we must make ourselves vulnerable and be willing to take a chance on someone. After all, that person could do that thing again that hurt/annoyed/angered/embarrassed us.

The deepest level of love constitutes that we forgive that person for not being perfect. I know this last sentence makes it all sound extremely simple, but humans are not simple creatures and sometimes it FEELS harder than it SOUNDS.

When I write about love in this instance, it could apply to any type of love for any person. It could be a family member or a friend. Must you forgive a person for their faults in order to love them? Not necessarily. But in order to truly love them on the deepest level possible you absolutely must forgive them. (Think of unforgiveness as a fence that you can see over but not quite climb over. Therefore, it is always blocking you to some degree.)

So the next time your spouse (or other person) doesn’t something that upsets you, try to shift your thinking away from the thing that upsets you. Instead try to focus on all the things he or she does that are RIGHT. Over time your feelings about that person will shift and you will learn to forgive him or her for not being perfect.

Then you will be entering the realm of the truest kind of love. ❤

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Why I Must Delete All Comments On This Blog

Modern RelationshipWhy I Must Delete All Comments On This Blog

Google is an ever changing thing. That’s a nice way of putting it.

Google constantly changes the way it ranks sites on the Internet. You see, it sends out these little bots to “crawl” every site it can find. Then it uses the information it finds to rank each site. This determines whether your site comes up at number 1 in the search returns or 1 million. (Hint: NOBODY want their site to be listed as number 1 million.)

Why is this important?

Well, when you search for something on the Internet, do often do you look at the second, third, fourth, or fiftieth page of search results? Never….right?

No website or blog owner wants to spend hours researching and writing material if no one will ever see it, so it’s important to keep your website showing up high in the search results.

So this is the reason I must delete all comments on this blog.

Actually, there are two reasons.

First, when people comment on my blog they often leave a link to their site. This is perfectly fine. I often do that on other people’s sites myself. But here is the problem: If they later delete that site or change anything about that page of their site, then it is a “broken link” that goes no where. If that link is still listed on my site, then Google will penalize my site.

Doesn’t sound fair? Well, it sort of isn’t. But that’s how it works.

Second, even if a person links to a site that is still up and running, Google will still penalize me if it doesn’t “like” that site.

Yep, that’s right.

Why Must I Delete Everything Now?

Well, I have been preoccupied with other projects lately and have let this site suffer. I have not been on top of things and my ranking has slipped. It would literally take hours to go through the mountains of comments that I have approved over the years, so it would be much easier to just delete all the comments.

Anyone who has ever been a webmaster knows that it takes hours to sift through all the incoming comments for a website or blog. Although I have a plug in that helps cut down the time, it is still a huge job. I just don’t have the time or energy to go through all of these comments a second time.

To anyone who has posted a legitimate comment that did not link to anything “bad” I offer my sincere apologies.

I hope everyone understands : )

Time Saving Tips For Parents

Time Saving Tips For ParentsTime Saving Tips For Parents

Being a parent can often feel like being on a never-ending treadmill. Get out of bed, get ready for school, drop off kids, pick up kids, do homework, pack lunches, take bath, go to bed, get out of bed…….

Oh, did I forget to mention after school activities, and sometimes even before school activities?

What happened to all the family time? And while we are talking about it, what happened to all the “you” time?

Being a parent can be down right overwhelming these days, especially when you add on jobs and other commitments.

And single parents? I don’t even know how you do it. Seriously, hats off to you, because you are INCREDIBLE!

But everyone could use a few time saving tips, no matter what your situation might be. So here I am listing a few things that work for us. This is not rocket science, but every little bit helps, right?

1. Prepackage Teddy Grahams, Pretzels, Goldfish, Etc. For Lunches & Snacks

I usually don’t buy the overpriced, prepackaged versions of these items, but instead I buy snack bags and do it myself. It literally takes just minutes, but it saves lots of money and keeps down the clutter in my pantry. (Some of those prepackaged boxes are huge.) I have my boys help prepare the bags of goodies. We keep a variety of items to choose from, so when it’s time to pack lunches and snacks the boys just grab whatever item they want.

2. Wash All Fruits and Veggies When You Bring Them In The House

When we bring in groceries I wash all fruits and veggies immediately. This means no washing of individual items when it’s time to pack lunches, but it also means my family eats more healthy foods because all fruits and veggies are already washed and ready to eat when they want a snack at home too.

3. Choose Clothes the Night Before

It’s amazing how much time this saves me in the mornings. After I put my boys in the shower in the morning I am free to start breakfast, finish getting myself ready, etc. because their clothes are already chosen and ready for them to put on. The time it takes for them to shower, dry off and dress gives me those extra few minutes to keep my morning from feeling like a circus.

4. Keep Homework Supplies In the Car

This one really helps me keep it together. After a long day at work all I want to do it go home and chill for a while. I DO NOT want to come home and start doing homework. So we have put clipboards, pencils, and extra paper in our vehicle to be used for homework on the way home from school. It is surprising how much homework my boys can do in those few minutes. They often have it ready for me to check by the time we get home.  This is also great for days when we have appointments and don’t go straight home from school.

5. Have Everyone Carry In Everything From Your Vehicle Every Time You Get Home

I hate a cluttered up car as much as I hate a cluttered up home, so each time we arrive home I make everyone in the car carry in everything that belongs to them. Every time. Without fail. This keeps me from spending my weekends cleaning out my car. If my boys fail to do this, they will be called back outside to complete the task because I want it to be a habit for them. (Cleanliness is a habit, you know.)

So there you have it. Some of my best time saving tips for parents. Hope you will find these useful.

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